How to Help

If you have recently learned about another person's experience of sexual misconduct, dating/domestic violence, or stalking, there are ways to help:

  • Listen. Don't judge.
  • Don't probe for details.
  • Know and be clear and up-front about your ability to maintain confidentiality or not. See information for employees.
  • Let the victim/survivor take the lead. Experiences of this nature take away an individual's power—don't compound this experience by putting pressure on someone to do what you think is right.
  • Avoid unsolicited touching or hugging.
  • Acknowledge what you don't know.
  • Encourage the victim/survivor to contact a victim advocate or other confidential resource for support.
  • If the victim/survivor is willing to seek medical attention or report the incident to the police and/or the OSMRC, offer to go with him/her or help connect him/her with a victim advocate who can do so.